Wednesday, November 07, 2018

midterm 2018

In short, T told midwest Americans have no use of decency, and midwest heard him.

Monday, November 05, 2018

after how many times can i finally turn my head
and pretend i didn't see or hear?

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

FB

越来越觉得FB这回是逆向营销。以前觉得他data值一块钱的人,这个事情炒下去不是明摆着证明他的data起码值100块钱么?

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

你今天一岁

希望你的前面,充满爱和希望。你爸有这些零碎的想法,在此记录下来。

希望你每天长大。

你睡前对我的倚靠,你挣扎着爬向我和你妈,并带着灿烂的微笑,我将永远珍视感念。然而这些童真的场面,并不因为其表面的甜蜜而永恒。它们可贵、可爱,却不是你生命的主题。

你我最应期待和努力的,是如何让你顺利从一个无辜的小孩,变成一个复杂的大人,懂得该如何生活在那些复杂的自私、纠结、消沉、抗争等等元素里并游刃有余、全身而退、不失本心,懂得无论碰到何事,都要能坦然入眠,不论如何跌倒,都能带着勇气爬起。

你将从一个可爱的娃娃,逐渐成为一个独立的现代女性。你将拥有自己的思想,掌握自己的命运,享受生活的种种可能。

我和你妈对于你的全部帮助,都会立足于如何让你逐渐建立、倚仗和发展你自己的判断力。我们绝不会以保护你的名义,安排你的计划,打击你的自信,压抑你对把握自己命运的渴望,让你逐渐变得无所适从。

你今天一岁,你需要我们的帮助,我们也有责任帮助你。当你尚小的很多时候,我们将不得不用我们自己的是非观来影响你。我们希望这些是非观凝聚的是放之四海而皆准的善,而你能从这些简单的善和对里面,逐步推演出该如何成为正直向上的人。

我们也会犯错。我们和你,都在成长。我们是家人,也是各自走在独特成长轨迹的两代人。希望我们能像拥有不同成长经历的普通人那样,互相尊重的讨论各种问题。也希望我们像家人一样,不吝惜互助和鼓励。

我们一起等待着你懂得如何站住自己的阵地(Stand your own ground)的那一天,即使阵地那边的是我们。

Friday, September 08, 2017

Looking back

You just cannot help thinking how much that over-protection and irresistible eagerness to "help" children make their personal decisions based on parents' judgement, even far beyond the period that they actually need that level of protection and guidance, destroyed their confidence, pride of ownership and enforced that sense of failure and depression for not being able to stick to their own principles, learn and grow from their own mistakes, all in the name of good will, parental responsibilities and the so-called selfless mother/father-hood, an very weird term indeed written in English. Unless the kid finally stacked up enough courage or impatience, and became skillful enough to fend off the endless interference either peacefully or violently and truly lived his own life, he is forever a loser and lower level being from inside the family and inside of his own mind, however self-sufficient he may financially or physically becomes to the outside. He, unfortunately, will forever be trapped in this sense of incapability and irresponsibility in his life, and paid the ultimate price of not growing strong enough to stand against others' will for his own good when needed the most. He is simply the casualty of the battle against his most unmatched opponents, and those shrapnel buried deep inside will accompany him forever.

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Thank you.